11 - Loving the Bride While Healing from the Wounds

Oct 29, 2026  •  Chris Behnke, Prudence O'Haire

Maybe you have carried something from a church, a leader, or a system that should have protected you and did not. You want to be honest about the pain. You also do not want that pain to decide who you become. Many believers are tired of being angry, and just as tired of pretending they are not.


In this episode of How People Flourish, we make room for honest lament without letting cynicism write your story. We talk about loving the Bride while refusing to stay under the control of the people who wounded you. Join us to find clarity, reclaim your energy, and step back into the future God is building with you.


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7:24 The conversation begins: why so many of us are in transition

10:22 Why healing doesn't happen alone

14:15 How to lament without letting cynicism define you

17:12 "Am I crazy?" The first question after leaving

20:14 Never trust a minister without a limp: Jacob's wound

26:28 How the enemy uses truth, and why God isn't afraid of it

27:34 Paul, Peter, and a model for questioning authority

31:24 The stick left in the wound: why some things need outside help

34:26 Forgiven with God, healed with each other

38:46 It's okay to mourn what could have been

40:22 Why we all need someone to really listen

41:33 Same mountain, different view: what others see that we can't

44:31 How to bless those who wounded you without staying under their control

49:59 Broken pottery repaired with gold

52:25 A wounded father and the grace to forgive him

55:09 The tree in the tiny pot: what it takes to flourish

57:23 Why this moment needs people who know Holy Spirit and each other